This unseen tag saying “Notice Me!” that we all have and we just want it to stop!

We are just a human being, wanting to be noticed is a normal brain function. Do not feel bad when you suddenly realize that a part of you is screaming for someone to notice you. It is perfectly normal. Relax, do not kill yourself for having such thought. For you to know, though don’t tell anyone I told you this okay? “We all have a tag saying Notice Me!” Haha, there I said it! You might be wondering if there’s a way for it to stop because you want to be free from the constant feeling of being conscious. I’ll tell you what, there’s no way for you to stop it. It’s a normal brain function! Well, I am not fully saying that it is impossible to minimize the thought because it drives us crazy enough. Constant training of consciously deciding that you don’t have to feel the need of being noticed and to feed your powerful mind a solid discussion of why such thought should be ignored will go a long way.

I would want to support you on that. I want to let you know that I only want the best for you. Wanting it to stop would be the first thing you want to do. That was the first thing I wanted to do too. I did my research and realized that this is a common problem and is being ignored! We are too embarrassed to say how we wanted attention. I did a lot of stupid things before just to satisfy this part of me who wanted to be noticed. The more I wanted to ignore this thought the more it would haunt me and it’s a shitty feeling. A very tiring mind game to play.

Thankfully not anymore… And I hope the same would be for you. I am happy that you decide to want it to stop and make a move. Here is what I did. The hardest part might have something to do with fully accepting the fact that I am an attention seeker individual. And not just accept, but to fully allow my mind and soul to understand and process that this is something I had to deal with.

It took me time to see the pattern of when these thoughts would occur and what triggers them. You have to be brutally honest with yourself, sympathize, and understand that you are doing this to be better and wiser. Here are the steps that you have to follow when you realize the thought of “Notice Me!” clouds your mind. See it will work for you as it did for me.

1. Acknowledge the fact that it is normal. The moment you fully believe it as something natural in human brain function, you don’t feel guilty anymore.
2. Pause for a bit. Do self-talk. This could be your favorite part. You can be creative and make a good humorous line to talk yourself out of it. Mine lines these past days are something like: “Oh I see you! You’re doing really great and we don’t want to dwell on that thought don’t we? Haha alright back to work!” as simple as this line, I find it funny and really it is! Talking to your inner self is the best way to remove the thought from bugging you.
3. And the last one, this is a must okay? Is to take a moment to look around you. Look at the person that you intend to want to be noticed too. Don’t be afraid. You might be thinking: “Oh, what if she/he’s looking at me too?” I’ll tell you right now that no, no one’s looking at you. The magic that happens when you look around is you would realize that almost everyone is lost in their own little world. And literally, no one is giving a shit about you and me.

These are three easy steps you can choose to practice if you are like me who constantly under the pressure of wanting to be noticed in a crowd. Hope you a thing or two from this. Have a good day, beautiful creature!